It your turn..now what??

I talk about weddings pretty much non-stop. I mean as a planner the wedding industry is pretty much a staple in my life among other things. However even personally, as a bride I stay in a wedding magazine or blog learning all the amazing thins I can do at my wedding. However no one tells you what happens right after that first post to announce "Im engaged!"

As a bride your mind goes in all sorts of directions. Where will the venue be? How much are the flowers? Who will be in the wedding? When do we send out our save the dates?

While all of these are good questions for the you and your planner to discuss what about the all so very important question of "what will marriage be like?" We focus on the gowns, menus, music but sometimes loose focus of what's really important you and your spouse becoming one. I'm finding those who have gone through the process of having a wedding expressing how they feel about getting married and too often is the response about the wedding. I've learned the difference between the two the wedding is the party with lots of people, the marriage is life with two people.

If I'm honest I find myself answering in the same way at times.

Responses leading me to say " Well we just sent out the invites" or " I haven't chosen the playlist yet... I really should get on that!" When the dust clears and there are no more decisions to make and all your ducks are aligned can you look back on the moments with your betrothed and really say "at the end of the day it is all about us".

Wedding planning can be tons of fun, I mean who doesn't love picking out that perfect dusty blue linen, am I right! But, what really matters are the times Calvin and I talk about our future together. How we want God to lead our steps, what our morning routine will look like, how he loves breakfast and I am a "pasta every night" kind of girl.

Even more serious questions like whats your mood when you wake up? What does a "free" Saturday look like to you? Are you a social butterfly 7 days a week or are you more quiet and relaxed during the week and want to go out on the weekend? Do you like to host friends and family or do you enjoy solitude?

Of course most of these questions we asked or talked about before becoming engaged, but now its game time. Its no longer an idea of getting married, its the real thing so enjoy the ideas and plans that come along with becoming one.

I write this to say don't focus on the material things too long. Pick the style your going with , pass those ideas to your planner,

and don't give it a second thought. Then truly focus on what matters, laughing, loving each other, and asking God to lead your steps in the plans you both make. Enjoy the moment, but thrive in the lifetime of happiness you have to look forward to.

love,

Jacquelyn